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Why I became a stay-at-home mom..

Hello again,

I know I know I always have the same introduction, but really how does time just fly by.

It slips out of our hands and next thing you know it’s been days, weeks, months, years.

Anyways, you know before having kids I always wondered how someone became a stay-at-home mom. I never really pictures myself staying home and taking care of my kids. I’ve always been the type to get up and go and just do things. Life just seemed so full of things to do how could I possibly stay home ALL the time.

Well here I am, almost 2 years of being home with my boys. It is so hard and I truly don’t even know how I did it when I was a working mom. I feel like I’m always busy, there is never a break.

When my first baby was born, I went straight to work without issues. I managed to exclusively pump for 9 months and not only that but I was a full time student and working full time. I have no idea how I managed to do that but I did it for an entire year. One day I just started to feel more anxious and that anxiety grew each day. I would be okay and bring myself to feel okay for a bit but then the next day the feeling would come back. I thought I just need a change. So, I changed jobs and started fresh. I was excited, nervous but excited for the change. I did fine the first few days then the anxiety started to pick up. Except, this time I would get to work and I would go to the restroom and cry. I didn’t understand the feeling and to be honest I felt so dumb.

What was happening to me. I opened up to my husband after about 2 weeks of this happening to me. I didn’t know how to explain to someone what I was feeling inside. I was happy for my new opportunity and to be able to learn something new but at the same time I felt like I was missing something, I was sad about something that I couldn’t quite put my finger on.

And, just like that I quit my job.

Almost 2 years now and I still think about what happened. I think I had post partum depression but at the moment I tried so hard to hide that from myself because the thought of having PPD made me feel weak.

I love being a stay-at-home mom but let me tell you, it’s the hardest job ever. I am glad I made a decision for myself but I wish I would have spoken out about what I was feeling, about what I was thinking. If I would have spoken out I would have been able to get the help I needed.

I don’t know much about PPD but I do know that it doesn’t just happen when you first give birth. It can happen any time, during pregnancy or a year after giving birth.

Speak out for yourself. Don’t be ashamed of what you are feeling.

I knew what to expect with my second baby and staying busy has really helped me control my feelings and feel better about myself.

Until next post. ❤

Thank you for reading.

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3 Toy Favorites for babies

The thing that I dreaded the most was TOYS. Simply because I did not want to have a mess all the time or have to trip on anything while walking in the dark. I like to say im pretty organized and like to have a clean space. Let me tell you, a toy is only interesting for about the first 10 minutes max and then its history. Yet, I still manage to walk out the store with a toy. Story of my life.

I do have some toys though that I picked out myself and I have noticed how they still have not gone out of style after 13 months. LOL. These are toys I actually purchased and think are fun, educational, entertaining, colorful or simply just must-have toys.

  1. LeapFrog MyPal Scout or Violet
    • Scout, is programmable with your childs favorite color, animal, food and name. It is actually really cute. It sings multiple songs as well as a it says multiple phrases. My favorite feature was the lullabies it has. We bought this when he was only 3 months old and now at 13 months he still hugs and sings with Scout. Educational, cute, and soothing.

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2. Fisher-Price Kick and Play Piano Gym

  • We got this one when he was about 2 or 3 months to start making tummy time more entertaining. The hanging toys are great to get the baby to reach for items and become aware with his or her surroundings. As the baby kicks, there are 2 settings on the piano, it can play continues music or its one key. This makes tummy time easier as the music plays and the hanging toys can be attached to the mat so the baby can play with them. Interactive, educational and fun.

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3. Fisher-Price Learn With Me Zebra Walker

  • We got this to help assist as a support for standing up. It plays music and it has interactive toys which make it a really fun toy. It helped when he began to take his first steps as he would love to push it around to hear the music play. He did start to walk unassisted at exactly 12 months and he still likes to push his zebra around and play with the toys. This toy is very interactive, educational, colorful and fun.

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Easy Baby Food Solutions

I wanted to make all my baby food to make sure everything was chemical free and healthy. I wasn’t really being realistic with myself. Finding the time to steam, puree and package my baby food did not really fit into my schedule at times. Juggling school and work was not really working for me along with washing a ton of baby bottle parts and pumping machine parts (exclusively pumping).

I also wanted to give my baby several options of flavors and colors to explore without having to be making different things daily. I did my research and found a couple of things that really helped me out. One of the main things I got to do was figure out what he actually did like and didn’t like without wasting a lot of food.

I began feeding him purred veggies when he was 4 months, this was the time that my pediatrician gave us the okay to begin food. I am not a professional so I do suggest you ask your pediatrician when you can start solids. Always be careful with any potential allergies. I did follow the 3 day rule, where I would introduce something new every 3 days. I did this for about the first month since I saw that this was recommended in a lot of the mom groups. I also did not want him to know sweets too soon so I decided to start with vegetables. Every baby is different and only you will know whats best for them.

So here we go, I will only write out some of the foods I made but not in specific order. I can always do another post with more structure guide on what I did. This is just for ideas on what to feed your baby.

For making my own food I used the baby bullet by Magic Bullet, which was the easiest thing to use. Very easy to clean, the containers are very easy to store as well as the right size for each feeding.

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Foods I started with as singles then began mixing after I had tried them alone, at least once:

  • Vegetables:
    • Peas
    • Carrots
    • Sweet Potato
    • Squash
    • Zucchini
    • Broccoli
    • Cauliflower
    • Avocado
  • Fruit: Normally I would mix in a bit with the vegetable for it to not be so sweet but that was my own personal choice, for the first feedings.
    • Peach
    • Pear
    • Apple
    • Mango
    • Banana
    • Berries

I would puree the above fruits and veggies until we were ready to transition to more solid food when teeth began to come out. I later found out about Baby Led Weaning and that really sounded interesting to me but my boy is now 13 months so he basically eats anything and does very well with a spoon and fork and hands (he loves this option the best).

After a lot of research to try to make my life a little bit easier I found the first baby food that I really wanted to try. Once Upon A Farm, became my go to. Not only do they come in a clear-back pouch that is eco-friendly, but they have no preservative in the food. The purees are fresh and are kept refrigerated. I was able to find them at my local grocery store in the refrigerator section. The taste and texture are comparable to when you make the baby food yourself (I taste everything first).  They offer a great variety of flavors from Applesauce, mango, Veggies, Oatmeal and more. When you visit their site, onceuponafarmorganics.com, you can see all their flavors and they also are labeled for age group.

If you would like to give them a try I did find this link that has a great offer for an 8-pack trial. https://onceuponafarmorganics.com/pages/trial-offer

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When I would run out of Once Upon A Farm and was waiting on my next order I had to find alternatives.

My next choice of baby food was Happy Baby because of the clear pouch and Plum Organics Baby Food because they are Non-GMO, unsweetened and unsalted food. They offer a great variety of flavors and their vegetable blends are great in flavor which I really liked.

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Hope this helps you moms out there. These are actual products that I used and I know there are more economical alternatives, but i wanted to go with organic food for my baby to not expose him to so many chemicals in food. I try my hardest to provide the best for my baby but I know that us moms are always busy that a little help is always welcome.

I can proudly say that he loves his vegetables. As far as meats, well I did introduce chicken and turkey into his foods later on around 6-8 months. I tried fish for the first time when he was 12 months. He has yet to try pork and beef which I am still debating when to start. Any suggestions would be great.

Hope this was helpful to you guys!!!

 

 

 

 

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Inner and Outer Beauty

Hi beautiful Moms,

I wanted to do something different. When I became pregnant there were days when I could barely get out of bed to get to work. I thought that for sure when I gave birth, my love for makeup would stop.

I love makeup, I use to spend a lot of time watching YouTube videos to get more and more tips and learn about new makeup products. I love lipsticks, eye shadow palettes, the latest eyeliner, etc. I just thought because many moms would say how little time they had for themselves, that I would not have enough time to feel pretty.

It’s tough being a mom at times but we also have to remember that we need to feel our best in order to be the best moms. It does take a bit extra time to get ready now, than it did before I had Adrian. I give myself extra time before work to get ready while he sleeps so I can get at least some quick foundation, eyeliner and maybe a lip color on my face. I also have found products that help make my makeup application easier. All-in-one foundatitons or full coverage foundation to help skip some steps, quick application tips, and also quick masks to help restore the skin and help with under eyes (which let me tell you are harder for me to conceal now a days). I will do another blog with products I personally use that have helped me now that I am a mom.

My goal is to share tips and to motivate moms to feel their best. Becoming a mom has been one of the most challenging things I have ever done because there is no real right or wrong answer. There are plenty of opinions and judgments that as a first time mom it’s all overwhelming. It is the most rewarding thing I have ever done with my almost 29 years of life and if I had to re-do it, I would do it in a heartbeat.

As a new mom I have a greater understanding of life and appreciation for my own mom and for all those moms who I once wondered how they even handled every day life. We have to motivate each other and encourage each other to be better than the day before. If yesterday we had tantrums, endless crying not only from the baby but ourselves, food thrown every where, explosive diapers, yelling, kicking, etc…. Lets make today better!! We will handle each of those situations with a positive attitude, with “I can do it” attitude, and while we are at it, lets look our best for ourselves.

Feel good and look good for YOU!

**snapchat filters help me out too, LOL

XOXO

-FTmomlove

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Mom on a budget

There are many sites that you can sign up with that will mail you coupons and samples. Here are some that I found very helpful:

The sites above sent me some sample sized cans of formula as well as single serve formula packages. Along with the formula they sent me coupons to use in store. These coupons varied in value but they helped out specially when stores such as Target and Babies R Us had sales.

Other sites that helped me out to get samples and know more about products were:

The bump box is mainly for mothers but do have some baby items as well. They have different types of boxes to choose from. I got a sample box that they were having deals on which you can always keep an eye out for their promotions so you can get the less expensive box. This box would have lactation cookies, organic lotions, hand sanitizer, salt for you feet, sunscreen, etc. They were all sample/trial size items but for the cost I was able to try out new products.

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The target box has not been available for too long but as soon as I found out about it I was on it. I paid shipping for it and it was well worth it. This box came with a travel size of wipes, Honest hand sanitizer spray, lotion, Dove baby wash, and much more, all for only the shipping cost.

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Wal-Mart boxes come to you during pregnancy, one every trimester. This is one you may want to subscribe as soon as you become pregnant in order to be able to take the full advantage of what it offers. The box in the picture was the most recent box they sent me now that my son is 1 year old.

 20170802_20160220170802_201451There are many sites that can help you learn more about couponing. There are several pages on Instagram or Facebook that you can follow. That’s how I learned about these special deals and of course by using Google and reading through websites to find information on what the companies have to offer. The offers I showed are ones that I used myself but are many more out there.
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Unique and Happy

I guess this is my rant blog post.

I have an 11 month old. Will be turning 1 soon and there has been a lot of reflecting on life and the past 11 months. Maybe I’m judging myself a bit too hard because I am trying to fit in to the “perfect mom” role. Not quite sure what it is that has been sitting in the back of my mind about this “parenting” thing. I keep asking myself whether I’m a good mom or not? Is my child a reflection of my parenting skills? Maybe I should have read more books or maybe I should have Googled less. Who knows. but this is hard and I can’t believe I’m still pretty well put together after 11 months of  maximum 5 hours straight of sleep, working full-time and being a full time student and not only that but also taking care of daily house work. I have to say I truly admire everyone who does this and more without complaining. Well I’m not really complaining, this is more like speaking out loud (in writing).

One thing I am tired of is how people tend to judge babies. They meet a baby and they point out things about them… My kid cries when he sees people he is not familiar with. He is not too heavy, not sure what the weight requirement is for an 11 month old, he likes to yell randomly (wish I knew what the yelling was for), it’s usually happy yelling though not like tantrum yelling. I am tired of comments about other babies and how they compare to mine. Why must they try to categorize all babies into one.

Every parent is different. Every person has a different life. Every adult has different responsibilities. Every person has different obstacles, different blessings. Not one person is the same as the other, so my question is, why must our children be the same?

My child is not perfect, to me he is, but I know he may not be on the top of the growth chart, he may be behind on walking, im not quite sure. There’s many charts to show milestones, to show growth range, food charts, sleep charts, etc, you name it. These are only guidelines. Guidelines to help a parent know their child is progressing. As adults for example, when we go to school, do we all get the same grade, umm no, that’s why there different letter grades, why??… because we all learn differently we all have different strengths and different weaknesses.

Instead of comparing our children or other children why don’t we embrace their qualities. We should celebrate their accomplishments and work on their downfalls. We are their teachers, their mentors, their guides to help bring out the best in them so they can grow to be unique adults that have a heart to offer love to others and a healthy brain to offer the world opinions and answers. We should work on being a better human every day. As a parent I have learned that I cannot live my life through my child. I need to learn from him and also teach him.

Lets make the world a better place. Through smiles, through celebration of life, the good and the bad.

Embrace everyone’s uniqueness and celebrate their happiness.

 

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Taking a walk down pregnancy lane

I’m probably just thinking about my pregnancy a lot because in 1 month I will be mom to a 1-year-old and I’m trying to let that sink in a bit.

Around this time last year I was already going on with my day without any sleep, but let’s go back to where this all began.

As you may know from my previous post that on June 07 of 2015 I had a miscarriage. This put me in a very rough spot and I dealt with depression for a while. The months went on and we decided we did not want to try for another in fear of going through what we had gone through. We decided around November/ December to plan a trip. It was something very spontaneous and we began planning. We were all set to leave the second week of January 2016 to New York.

I had been having a weird feeling but was not sure what it was… Something kept telling me to get a pregnancy test but fear would stop me. I decided to finally test and to my surprise, it was POSITIVE!!

A week later we were on a plane to New York and that’s when it all began, morning sickness on the plane. I still feel bad for the girl next to me who had to witness it all as I could not hold anything in. I knew at the moment that I was in for a ride with this pregnancy. The morning sickness was not only morning, it came in the day, at night, in the morning, regardless of the place. This lasted for 4.5 months!!!

Everyone would tell me it would pass when I hit the second trimester. I counted the days for this to happen but it didn’t. I wore the bracelets to help with the sickness, took medicine prescribed by the midwife and that didn’t work, tried ginger, crackers, candy, gum, but nothing would work. Slowly it stopped and then guess what…. heartburn. Constant heartburn even when I drank water. Then came the anxiety attacks.

Let me tell you, anxiety attacks are no joke. I had never experienced any until this time in my pregnancy. I will not get into too much detail about them as they were a very hard thing to deal with and its hard to think about them.

There was something new constantly with my pregnancy and the only solution my midwife would give me was to rest! How does someone get any rest when working full-time and being a full-time student. At this point I was well past 34 weeks. Then very suddenly I began to experience itching throughout my lower stomach, the side of my thighs, all the way down to my knees. The itching was unbearable that I would sit in the shower past midnight just letting cold water fall on me to be able to deal with the itching for a bit. I would not sleep. I tried coconut oil with almond oil and several other lotions. Finally let my midwife know and they drew blood and ran some tests. I waited and in the mean time just had restless nights with extreme rashes through my body without any answers. At my 39 week check up they finally said that my tests were not looking good. I had cholestasis. Whatever that meant all I knew was that it was not good. That same day they told me I would have to be induced because normally they don’t let anyone go past 37 weeks when they had cholestasis and I was already 39 weeks. I was not ready even though I had been telling myself I was ready. I was going to give birth already, but how? I was not ready at all.

I felt that from that moment on it all became a blur. What I had planned for had changed without me even getting any notice. September 8, I went in to begin induction and Friday Sept 9, 2016 at 11:24 p.m. I became a mom. And at that very moment the 39 weeks and 5 days of surprises and unexpected turns, disappeared. The love of my life was in my arms. 7 pounds 10 ounces of pure love, joy, and excitement filled my heart.

Before getting pregnant I had this idea in my head of how pregnancy would like. I would have that glow that everyone talks about. Mine was every other day if I got lucky and it came with the help of makeup. Not one thing of my pregnancy went as I planned. Everyone had great advise some wanted and some unwanted but all of it helped me in one way or another to be able to deal with the constant pain I was in.

Life will always throw unexpected things and as much as we try to have control over it there are times we just have to let go and let God guide us. People who know what I had to deal with ask me if I would do it again even if I knew I would have to deal with the same and my answer is, YES. Without a doubt I would do it all over again. The end result is a feeling that cannot be explained. It is a feeling that does not end and it only keeps growing and as much as I try to use words to explain it, I can’t.

Wish all those women looking to get pregnant good luck. Take it day by day, trust me it’ll all be worth it.